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The loss of one electron often  turns an atom from negative to positive.

Five simple rules of  happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.


Breathe in Faith...

Breathe out Fear...


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5 Stages of Grief
1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance


Depression is often Anger turned inward!


One Day at a Time


True addiction recovery lies in the ability to deal with root issues, not simply medicate the symptoms of them."


You do not have to carry yesterday's hurt and damaged feelings into today.

 A fresh supply of new feelings is yours for the taking!


"There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path!"

Addictions  A-Z

Addiction Intervention
Alcoholism Physical Symptom
Alcoholism Physical Symptom
Addiction Recovery

Types of Addictions

Addictions can keep you behind the eight ball

What is addiction?

Addiction is, by it's very nature, a wily opponent. Ask any compulsive gambler, an adrenalin addict whose addictive chemicals are entirely self produced, if they wanted to lose the 'entire farm' to get their high from gambling. The answer will typically be a very sad no.

The body will do some very tricky things to get the chemicals it craves, including rearranging thought and emotional processes.

  • Hence an anxiety attack can sometimes be 'conjured up' by the body to gain access to the drug dosage from both the self produced drug adrenalin and the prescribed medication, alcohol or street drug.
  • Since effects of a conjured up anxiety attack are exactly the same effects as an authentic one, the difference between the two is not important.

The drugs are the same in either instance and the withdrawal cycle repeats itself by enabling more anxiety symptoms.

Simply recognizing the possibility of the above statements sheds an entirely new light on the concept of addiction.

  • Is it entirely symptomatic? Definitely not!

But the recovery process is definitely confused and hampered by the roadblocks that the addiction and withdrawal cycles introduce to the equation. Especially since they are very often unnoticed.

Drugs and medications, by necessity, are very powerful, addictive substances. Unfounded anxiety is a direct result of all drug addiction cycles and a major proponent of addiction and codependency symptoms.

Symptoms of Addiction and Codependency

  • Resentful Attitudes
  • Risky Behaviors
  • Aggressiveness or Passiveness
  • Mood Swings
  • Physical Symptoms
    • Weight gain or loss - using food as a drug to calm the storms
    • Addiction to prescription or other drugs
    • Nervous twitches and ticks
  • Reactive Behavior instead of proactive behavior
  • Always feeling overwhelmed
    • Not trusting of your own feelings
    • Never feeling good enough
    • Depression, Anxiety and Lethargy

This website is for folks who are seeking information about addictions, drug addiction signs and recovery from various forms of chemical addictions and compulsive behaviors.

  •  Rather than slipping off into "Iím-different-land" the solution may be achieved by taking a broader view of recovery programs and their specific addictions that they address. These days the single addicted person is quite rare.
  •  Denial and Isolation may be lessened or eliminated by gaining a sense of
    • "I am One person with a fragmented recovery program" rather than
      • "Iím a fragmented person with a whole bunch of problems that no-one understands".

Also, the complexities of multiple addictions are discussed somewhat as today's addicts are usually multiply addicted to varying degrees. 

These multiple addictions are very difficult to deal with as they are so commonly misdiagnosed and the addict is left in a coping position only. When this happens true relief is not experienced and a life blossoming to its true potential is lost from the planet.

Dealing with addictions from self produced chemicals is also discussed as it is a very complex issue as well. Gamblers, shoppers, sex and crime addict's drugs of choice are the self produced drugs adrenalin and endorphins, which are like any other drugs and gain tolerance therefore higher stakes have to be present to get the same feeling of control or thrill.

Who are the Players?

The cycle of Addiction and Codependency with alcoholics or any other type of addict requires three main people/groups of people:

  1. The Enablers:
    •  those who allow /excuse/ finance/ bailout the alcoholic/addict.
  2. The Persecutors:
    • those who stir up the pot in order to put the alcoholic/addict on the defense and look for a way out of the pain.
  3. The Victims:
    •  those who wallow in the excuse that someone is abusing/picking on/insulting/not recognizing their good qualities.

In the normal cycle of addicted relationships the enablers, the persecutors and the victims occupy all these roles at various times and to varying degrees - the fact that all persons switch roles makes it very difficult to assess anything until a crisis occurs.

Addiction Recovery is Possible

Working on a non-payment basis with recovering addicts of all types for the last 30 years has been a very rewarding experience.

It is tremendously gratifying on so many levels to watch a dejected, lost soul emerge from their drugged cocoon and morph spiritually into a productive member of society capable of living within a renewed belief system.

These folks, if they tend to their recovery properly and continue to put good things into their lives, will eventually even be able to be spiritually present in relationships as well..

Often their addictions started when they were very young, so much maturing will be necessary. The process is uphill though and is very gratifying.

This site is meant to give assistance and hope to folks who have been encountering roadblocks in their recovery.

What can be done?

There are currently over 1200 different self help organizations, some undoubtedly more effective than others. Most do not have fees but may pass the hat for a few coins to help them pay room rent etc. Consult your local telephone directory to or contact your local crisis line, check community listings or ask your doctor for a recommendation. If all else fails call a local AA office, they can usually point you in the right direction.

If you need assistance email us with your concern and your town or city and we will be happy to find you a contact. All queries will be treated as confidential.

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  • Overweight and Overeating, or eating disorder.
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When All Else fails use Rule 62.



The information provided is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always seek the advice of your health care professional if you have a specific health concern.

If you are a multiple addict and having trouble getting through the modern diagnosis process to gain an effective recovery, please read through these pages.




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