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Denial Definition

Denial Definition Blame Definition

Denial Definition

Denial definition is: an assertion that something said, believed, alleged is false: refusal to believe a doctrine, theory, disbelief in the existence or reality of a thing.  Blaming others for any set of consequences usually constitutes denial. Denial keeps all addicts in their addictions.

Blame Definition

to hold responsible; find fault with or to place the responsibility for is another favorite tool of every addict! Together Blame and Denial can and do keep alcoholics and addicts senselessly in their madness indefinitely. and codependent spouses, friends, employers, and even professionals unknowing buy into this type of behavior continually.

Blame and Denial Defense Mechanisms

  1. Rationalizing – I don't drink/use every day, I don’t have a problem.
  2. Minimizing – I don't drink/use half of what Sam drinks.
  3. Cockiness – I got it made, these other folks are losers.
  4. Justifying – If you had a wife/husband like mine, you would drink/use too.
  5. Projecting – You always manipulate to get what you want.
  6. Blaming – You drove me to drink/use. It is my job stress.
  7. Humor – This isn't serious. Life is a joke.
  8. Intellectualizing – Research shows I'm probably not an alcoholic/addict.
  9. Lying – I only had a couple of beers, maybe three.
  10. Manipulation – If you quit bitching, I'll quit drinking/using.
  11. Accusing – Your fooling around keeps me drinking/using.
  12. Threatening – Get off my back or you will be sorry!
  13. Judging – If you did this or that right, things wouldn’t be so bad.
  14. Explaining – Oh, I drink/use because I . . .
  15. Analyzing – I started drinking more because of ____, it will slow down later.
  16. Arguing – I'm not an alcoholic, I've never gotten a DWI or . . .
  17. Defiance – I dare you to prove that I'm an alcoholic/addict.
  18. Withdrawing – If I don't do or say anything, they will leave me alone.
  19. Shouting – Leave me alone, I don't want to talk about it!
  20. Silence –
  21. Smiling – Just laugh it off. Nervous smile.
  22. Compliance – I just do and say what they want.

Blame and denial are common in all addictions and leave family, friends, co workers, employers and even innocent observers often confused as to their own self-worth, because they are so baffled as to how they are somehow to blame for, much less even have anything to do with, someone else’s problems.

We hope you take a new denial definition from this page and use it to free your particular situation. Leave me a comment below if you know other examples!


The Dean of Addictionz

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